Success is 95% mindset and 5% doing.
First and foremost, if you want to have a better life than what you are experiencing now, you must carve time out for yourself to think. I mean quiet time, where you are not multitasking on constantly looking at your phone and attending to things. You have to carve time out in your day just where nothing else is planned other than being with your thoughts and having a pen and paper.
That’s how I start my day; it’s non-negotiable because it sets the tone for the rest of the day. The way that I used to operate is I would hit the ground running, I would eat breakfast and drink my coffee, get out the door, and attend meeting after meeting. I’d follow that up with volunteering, other events, and family stuff. Then I would go to sleep, and do it all over again the next day.
This may sound familiar to you. Living in these circumstances, we’re getting things done, and things are happening in our lives, but we can become addicted to the activity. Yes, we can be successful, but there can also be this underlying feeling of gosh if only I had more time, I could be doing more. I could be more successful. I could take on this other challenge. I could be the fullest expression of myself, but I don’t know where to fit it into my day.
Well, you CAN be the fullest expression of yourself but it’s not about doing more.
It’s about being grounded and connected with doing the right things; not all of the things. The first step in even knowing what you are connected to and what resonates with your highest good is to get quiet and listen.
Try meditating; you don’t have to do anything special to meditate; you could be quiet for 15 minutes and focus on your breath. Breathe in, breathe out. You’ll be surprised how much clarity will come from that you could start that meditation by just posing a question. How can I be more effective with less time? Then let it go, don’t force the answers. Don’t try to think of solutions; allow the answers to bubble up, and it might happen in that 15 minutes, but it might happen later in the day. Whenever the solutions come to you, you’ll be more aware and attuned when you hear the answers.
That’s the first step.
For someone who has a proven track record of “Hey, I get things done.”
They have the habit of getting things done by checking things off the checklist crossing things out, but how do they find balance? How do we, first of all, balance our grittiness while changing some of the ancestral habits that are locked in our operating system in our subconscious mind?
Habits are hard to change unless you have an excellent reason to change them. This is why we all have blind spots. We all have blind spots, and we’re all only operating using a small percentage of our capability, our capacity, our brain function. There’s so much power that’s locked up inside of us; we would be astounded. I don’t even know how much I can do yet.
Shifting my thinking and implementing time to think has allowed me to quadruple my income. I’m giving on such a high level that I’ve never given before to causes that resonate with me. I could never have dreamed on this level until I created the space for myself to think.
The first thing I changed was I carved out time first thing in the morning to think. Even if you start with 15 minutes, 15 minutes every day for a week or two to write out your vision and how you want to feel, what you want. Write out the answer to “If I could ten times my results in every area of my life to my liking, what would that look like?”
Answering that question will indicate what you would love to be, do or have.
Start there, write, doodle, whatever you feel is right in that 15 minutes. Don’t judge what you’re writing; allow the ideas and the information to come out of you. Think of it as a shopping list; get detailed on what you would love to be, do or have. For the next week or two weeks, 15 minutes a day, write the shopping list, don’t judge it, write out the items and then from there, craft a vision, a goal, a real-life event.
I want you to dream because to change a habit that you’ve been living with for so long, you need to create a beautiful vision that is more powerful than your old habitual way of being.
Imagine your life when you have clarity about what you desire; not what you think you can have. Imagine intuitively knowing what opportunities to leverage to get there faster, with ease and flow. Now I want you to imagine having that clarity, the success, AND the life, joys, and nurturing relationships you desire. All of that starts with investing in your mind first. What if you began to do the right things that would move you forward, you know, get the momentum going in your business or towards your goal, as opposed to I’m going to do everything and see what sticks? As humans, we value “doing”. The best way to move toward your dreams is to start thinking or rather “being”.
You may also listen to a wonderful conversation I had with Rodney Flowers on his podcast, Game Changer Mentality.