Aloha! I want to talk about something really important, something that’s near and dear to my heart – the concept of “who do you think you are?” The other day, jumping on Facebook I got to really thinking about this concept. How we post things that we do daily and how there’s a lot of negativity out there around what’s posted. In fact, I saw some really ugly, negative comments regarding my coaching. Basically asking me ‘who do I think I am’ about my coaching and stepping into my courage and sharing my voice.
Inevitably when you share your voice and your heart, putting it all out there, there’s gonna be a lot of people who will receive that message. And they’re supposed to hear it. And then there will be other people, who even though they’re supposed to hear that message, will have it stir some stuff inside of them creating the opposite effect. I didn’t get emotionally involved with the comments, but it really made me sad to feel that a person was so angry and pointing the finger at me. Essentially saying ‘who do you think you are to share your opinion?’ And, and you know, it was just pointless.
Do you know people or have you ever looked at somebody who was making things happen in their life and thought to yourself, “who does she think she is, standing up for herself or raising her voice and being loud?” Have you ever thought, “oh, she’s loud or obnoxious, or whatever that is?”
How many of us ever have looked at somebody in judgment because they were standing up for what they believe is right or they were standing up for themselves? Maybe they were taking on a new challenge and they were stepping outside of themselves, really evolving into the beautiful person they were meant to be. What I would say is likely at one time or another, we’ve probably all done that. I know I’ve done that, looked at judgment like, oh my gosh, why is this person doing this? I wish they’d be quiet or whatever. This was before I started studying and working through this material and teaching it. So I would say, if you do find moments where you feel like that, then really examine your thoughts. Ask, “Why am I thinking that?” Take it deeper, because on a deep level, if you feel like that about somebody else, then I would imagine that on a deep level you probably want to do what they’re doing or you want something that they have.
When that frustration starts bubbling up, try standing up and being more courageous and using your voice. Maybe you’d like to help other people in a certain way and you see somebody else doing it. So there’s a little bit of envy and jealousy bubbling up. And when we come from that space and we’re thinking, who does that person think he is or she is, we’re coming from fear. We’re coming from lack and limitation. We’re actually energetically rejecting the very thing that we want. So how can we think to ourselves, who is this person to stand up in her truth or his truth? Who is this person to break out of poverty and make something of themselves? Who is this person to start a business? When we have thoughts like that, deep down, if we examine them, they’re probably things that we want ourselves. We just don’t know how to get there.
When we put that negative energy out there, we’re in essence rejecting the very thing that we want. We’re hiding.
It reminds me of this quote by Marianne Williamson which I love: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Stand in your truth. Fight for what you want and don’t be afraid to really go for it. And don’t let others’ lack and limitation inhibit you. Don’t allow yourself to place limits on other people. Stand in your truth.
And if you want help discovering it and standing in it, I want you to message me and I will definitely help you. Have a great day!