I’ve recently attended The Art of Goal Achieving with Bob Proctor and wanted to share some of my thoughts and insights with you.
What is a goal?
Many of us set goals that we’ve either done before, or we set goals that we think we can do, or we know how to do.
This brings me back to a painful point in time when I was in the military. I was very Type A (I still am) and I was a goal-achiever. I was always achieving, going from one thing to the next…
“I’m gonna run a marathon”
“I’m gonna make Master Sergeant, Senior Master Sergeant, Chief Master Sergeant”
“I’m gonna lead this organization”
“I’m gonna do this project”
“I’m gonna get this advanced degree”
From the outside looking in, it looked like I was doing a lot, but truth be told, whenever I achieved any of those things, I wasn’t happy, I didn’t have fulfillment and joy, I didn’t cut myself a break.
I had this insatiable desire and urge to keep achieving and doing something in order to prove that I was good enough, thin enough, smart enough, worthy enough. It was a really lonely place to be, because on the outside, it looked impressive.
But things really shifted for me when I learned the concept of setting goals the right way.
So, most of the time we set goals that we know how to achieve, or we’ve achieved before, like the goals that I had set in the past…. they seemed impressive, but they were really incremental and logical.
We need to set goals that are so big and scary and exciting that you have no idea how you’re gonna get there, but they’re heart-centered.
Two years ago when I started studying this material with Bob Proctor, I set a new goal. Although I haven’t achieved the entire goal yet, I’ve achieved parts of it and it’s exciting to take steps towards it. My old way of thinking was that I would only be successful when I achieved the goal, but I’ve changed my way of belief. So, one of the milestones toward that goal was to continually give a certain amount of money to a charity of my choosing, every month, regardless of the circumstances, and to remain in the six figures doing something that I love to do and that I’m passionate about. Work half the time, and travel around the world doing it. So, the old me would’ve made that my goal – “hey, I’m traveling around the world, six figures, I’m contributing to causes that I am passionate about. I’m doing what I love, and I’m working less time, and I have time freedom.” But that’s not my goal. That’s a stepping stone toward the bigger goal.
That new thought process really threw my whole idea of goal-setting on its head. Sandy Gallagher said that when she started learning this information, it was like somebody took her head off, shook it around, and then put it back on.
Make The Decision
Those who succeed in life, make decisions quickly, change them slowly, if at all. Those who don’t succeed, don’t make decisions quickly, they vacillate between back and forth, back and forth, that’s a decision in and of itself, and that’s procrastination. That’s gonna keep you stuck.
I make decisions that are in alignment and in harmony with my goal. When I first started on this journey, I was making decisions, and they were scary, because some of those were financial, and I didn’t have the finances to back up those decisions. But, they were in harmony with my goal, and I took a step, and the funds came. Things manifested and really started to shift for me when I made decisions quickly that felt good. We have our intuition, we have that sixth sense, our gut feeling and I learned to tune into that.
Often times we want to make the decision to move forward when something feels right in our body. If we listened to that feeling, then the solutions would come to us, and we would be on the right path. But we are programmed to live from the outside in, through our five senses. We look at our current circumstances, like our funds, our finances, and we say, “You know, I’m not gonna make that decision because of my situation here, these circumstances.” When we continue to make decisions based on our current circumstances, that keeps us stuck in our current circumstances.
We don’t trust our intuition enough. We don’t listen to it and we start to squash it. When we don’t listen to that intuition and take action, there’s an opportunity for fear to creep in. Then we mistake that fear for intuition and we say, “Oh, this doesn’t feel right” or “You know what? Maybe I shouldn’t do this.” But that’s just your fear, that’s your paradigm, and your old beliefs trying to keep you stuck.
Our mind is designed to keep us comfortable, that’s why we make excuses. So, when we are stepping out of our comfort zone, it’s going to feel uncomfortable, it’s not going to feel good. But we have to decide that we’re going to take charge of our future, and do what we know is right, regardless of how frightening it might be in the moment. Because when you step through that fear, you literally become a different person, which is awesome.
Are You Interested or Committed?
When you make a committed decision that you’re going to really go for something that you wanna be, do or have, you’ve gotta be willing to pay the price.
Are you simplyinterestedin achieving that goal or being that person? When you’re interested, you just do what’s convenient. When you’re interested, you’re gonna be easily swayed if somebody says something negative to you when you’re sharing your goal with them and you’re gonna push that goal aside.
Or are you committed? Are you willing to pay the price and stand up to that person, or stand up for that goal that you really want to have? That’s making a committed decision and that’s an example of paying a price. It’s uncomfortable to stand up for what you believe in, it’s uncomfortable to stand up for your truth. It’s uncomfortable standing up to people who may not think in this way. That’s paying a price.
Be selective with who you share your goals with. If you have a dream, think of that dream as a little child that you have to nurture and protect. They’re susceptible to the negativity of other people and surroundings, so you want to protect that child, you want to protect that goal.
Think About Circumstances
If you let circumstances dictate how you live, then you’re giving your power to somebody else, or to something outside of yourself. If you really believe that you have infinite potential, that you could do anything that you dream of, then truly, you have unlimited power.
When we live from the inside out, when we allow ourselves to dream, to visualize, and take action on that dream, and listen to our gut and our intuition, that’s us standing in our power. But when we listen to somebody else who’s negative, or we’re placing blame on a circumstance, as to why we can’t be, do or have what we want, then we’re giving our power to that circumstance. Don’t do that, don’t give away your power. Don’t let another person or circumstance steal your dream.
If you have that dream that’s inside of you, you can have it. I love what another consultant said (paraphrasing): I want you to imagine your dream is a child within you, and that child is just wanting to be seen, that child is saying, “Nurture me, don’t leave me”. It’s your job and responsibility to take care of that dream, to take care of that child within you.
That dream, that thought, that idea, that you had, that’s a part of you, that’s a part of your truth. So, I promise you, when you make a committed decision, when you are willing to pay the price, when you’re really willing to go for what you want, your life is going to dramatically change, and that’s exciting.
This is a quote by Marianne Williamson that I love: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, and not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God, and your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do, we were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us, it’s in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
That is so powerful. I hope that something that I say inspires you to live your light, shine your light, live your fullest potential. Take action, make decisive action, make a committed decision
If you need any help in that, or you have questions on any of this material, or stuff that I’m presenting that Bob is teaching me, then definitely reach out.